When couples quarrel, it can sometimes get out of hand. Failure to resolve issues or inabilities to compromise can lead to undesirable events. Commonly, third party interferences and substance abuses can also wreck havoc in the closest of family ties. However, when such quarrels degenerate into physical abuses, the suffering can be more than just emotional.

One can shed tears when looking at a couple, who not so long ago were deeply in love, are now tugging at each other's throats. It can also be excruciatingly painful to know that one that you loved is unfaithful. When we see these cases as doctors, one has to keep in mind that the battle scars are deeper than just the superficial wounds. The hurt and disappointment will be so clearly evident. A dream shattered by harsh and violent realities.

What went wrong? Who is at fault? It complicates matters when children are involved. Who should have custody of the children?

It is a situation that we do not envy. Often the perpetrators of physical abuses are chastised and brought to justice. It is unfortunate that in a fit of anger, we tend to use our fists rather than our heads. Such split second loss of control can cause a lifetime of misery and destroy a dream that took years to nurture.

Physical violence in a family is never accepted but widely prevalent. For some, the scars are well hidden away from friends as they choose to suffer silently. There is little alternative or room for any maneuvering. Such victims are isolated and lost.

We can only look to God for answers and find inspiration from his Word. Perhaps this is a fitting verse.

"Faith, hope, and love; But the greatest of them all is love. -- 1 Corinthians 13:4-7"